Are You Asking Yourself The Right Questions About Your Relationship with Alcohol?
When it comes to alcohol we spend such a long time (decades in some cases), asking ourselves the wrong questions.
These questions tend to be along the lines of…
Do I have a problem?
Will I ever be able to have just one drink?
Why can’t I drink like a ‘normal person’?
Each one puts the focus on alcohol and our ability (or inability) to control it, but we often avoid exploring beyond the drink and end up dancing around the real questions that allow us to picture what life could be without booze.
These questions can feel big and confronting, and there can be fear around what the answers might mean for us. But they can also give valuable insights that lead to actions that can shift everything in the most life affirming ways.
The big questions ask us to consider things like:
Is alcohol really serving us?
Is it allowing us to flourish?
Is it allowing us to show up fully in our lives?
Laura McKowen, author of We Are the Luckiest, puts it perfectly.
She says:
“The normal question is - Is this bad enough for me to change? The question we should be asking is – Is this good enough for me to stay the same? And the real question underneath it all is – Am I free?”
How would you answer these questions?
Are you free, or is there something niggling away and creating this nagging sense of discomfort?
Could it be better? Different? Lighter? Brighter?
We often know the answers, yet we hold so much fear about allowing these conversations to happen, even if they are just within ourselves.
So, I would invite you to ask yourself this:
“If I continued to drink forever at the level I am drinking now, would I be happy with my lot, my life, the way I show up in the world?”
I know it’s a biggie, but get your journal out and give it a go. Your answers to this are everything.
If you aren’t ready, you don’t have to act on them just yet. Having that open and honest conversation with yourself is the first step.
But it you are, check out the below:
There are so many moving parts in successfully stopping drinking, but first and foremost, before anything else, it is essential to address our mindset around alcohol.
What we don’t want, is to remove alcohol and forever feel that we are missing out, instead if we stop drinking we want to find freedom and really flourish, and this starts with our mindset.
After removing alcohol myself, and coaching hundreds of women to do the same, I know how essential it is to address the beliefs we have around alcohol.
Are you ready to dive in?
I have created a unique workshop, just for the Thrive Hub members. This contains strategies from my own journey to sobriety, from the learning provided by the hundreds of women that I have worked with, and includes science-based research and positive psychology.
This is about removing (or reducing) alcohol and feeling that it is the greatest choice that you could have ever made for yourself, and it all starts with the mindset. This is part of the puzzle that will set you free and we start to dig into it here.
Join the Thrive Hub and get access to my Workshop “Mindset Magic – How to shift your mindset to support you in changing your relationship with alcohol”.
When changing our relationship with alcohol, or stopping drinking altogether, the first step is reframing how you think about alcohol. If we believe that alcohol gives us anything positive at all, we will continue to want it, despite how much we try to resist it.
In this 35 minute video workshop, I will give you insight into some key mindset shifts, so that taking a break from alcohol, or removing it completely, truly feels like an empowering lifestyle choice.
